An honest moment on self love

An honest moment on self love

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SELF- LOVE: regard for one’s own well-being and happiness.

noun

I used to be very self conscious about my legs. I was teased in school, mostly by the boys for having incredibly skinny legs. Not only were my legs thin, but I was thin. People would tell me to eat more and when kids wanted to be mean, they too would tell me to go eat something so I can gain some weight or else I would blow away with the wind. Rude much?

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So, what did I do? I ate, and ate some more, but the weight gain never really happened.

It wasn’t until my mid 30’s that weight gain crept up on me, and I embraced it. I liked the way that I looked with a few extra pounds. Around that time, I had also landed my very first work from home job. There was a huge shift in lifestyle because I no longer had to leave my home and rush to get to work. I became pretty inactive. I rolled out of bed and walked around the house in my pajamas, working from my laptop on the couch. In addition to the few extra pounds that I had happily gained, I ended up gaining 40 pounds in 2 years. Yes, you read that right, 40 pounds.

Black target romperblack target romperWhen I was skinny, people told me to go eat something because I needed to gain weight. When I gained weight, people seemed troubled that I had gained weight and felt the need to constantly point it out. In the words of Wendy Williams…the hypocrisy of it all! While others seemed troubled and baffled with my weight gain, I was ok with it for the most part. Having been skinny for most of my life, I welcomed the weight. My main concern were these 3 things:  being healthy, feeling confident, and liking the way that I looked when I got dressed. It was pretty simple.

Moral of the story is- I have to love me. All of me, despite the opinions of others. Nicky when she’s on the slim side and Nicky with a little more weight on her. You have to love you too. Society will have you thinking that you are not good enough, but you have to look in the mirror and thank God for the body you are in. I am thankful for mine. Plus or minus 40 pounds and the skinny legs, too. I used to feel really self conscious to show my legs, but now I don’t.  They are mine. God given. I walk, run, jump and dance with these legs and that is what matters to me. Never let others dim your shine!

With love,

Nicky,

Epic vacation in California. 5 things you must do.

Epic vacation in California. 5 things you must do.

I’m going, going, back, back, to Cali, Cali- for sure!

I recently returned from a great vacation in California. I live on the East Coast, but the West Coast is the best coast… totally kidding. But seriously,  the West Coast was fun.

This was the big family trip that we do yearly with the kids and our dog. Hubs found a really dope Airbnb in West Hollywood for us to stay in. A cute 3 bedroom ranch, with use of the private pool. Much better than staying at a hotel and dealing with a bunch of other guests.

We went to Beverly Hills, Santa Monica Pier, downtown LA, all over Hollywood and more. We also visited Calabasas. I was determined to spot a Kardashian, or Justin Bieber, and I just knew that I would find them on the streets of Calabasas. Wrong! I saw no one! My son swears that he saw rapper T.I. driving while we were in Beverly Hills, however, the verdict is still out on if that was really him or not. The vehicle in question was going way too fast.

I wanted to share the places I visited, in case you’re planning a trip there soon.

Santa Monica Pier

The pier was great! There were lots of options of fun things to do. You can lay out on the sand, swim, there were rides, games, food, music, or you can just walk the pier.

Universal Studios

Universal was epic! There was so much to see and do, it would take me all day and night to tell you guys. The highlight of this day for me was taking the 2 hour tour through Universal Studios, and seeing where blockbuster movies were filmed. We saw the location of  scenes from Jaws, and Fast and Furious. Also saw the actual Bates Motel and took a drive through Wisteria Lane. If you don’t know what that is, then we can’t be friends. Sorry, not sorry. Wisteria Lane looks like a posh neighborhood. I drooled over the beautiful houses and tree lined streets while watching Desperate Housewives, but they are all just empty shells and props. Who knew!

We saw city streets and large buildings made to look like the streets of Manhattan in NYC, but again, just empty shells. Don’t believe what you see on TV, kids.

Hubs went to the Walking Dead tour and loved all the gore and zombies and such. I wanted no parts of it, but went with him unwillingly. Wife duties, ya know. Sigh.

TMZ tour

Do I even need to explain!? The TMZ tour was hilarious. It was also 2 hours. We drove around downtown LA, Beverly Hills, and saw the clubs and fancy restaurants that the celebrities frequent. We also got to see a really popular plastic surgeon’s office that had touched the faces and bodies of many celebrities. The bus tour was sold out and there were lots of jokes and laughter throughout the entire ride.

Hollywood Boulevard

The streets of Hollywood Blvd was packed just liked Times Square in NYC. We saw the stars of our favorite celebrities, saw the famous Chinese theater, and went to the Hollywood wax museum.

Griffith Observatory

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Griffith Observatory was like something out of a movie. To get there, we drove around a narrow winding road, up the mountains, with no railings to protect you from literally driving off the road and plunging down the side of the mountains. Like, LA, what’s good?? Ha. Any way, after driving for what seemed like forever, and parking, we then had to walk up several hills, again with no protective railing to prevent you from falling down a cliff if you happen to slip and fall. Yikes! Here you got a chance to overlook the city and of course, see the Hollywood sign.

The trip was great, and very relaxing. The next time, I want to visit Malibu and San Fran. If you have been to Cali, where did you go, what did you do? If you haven’t been? What are you waiting for?!

With love,

Nicky

Braided ponytail. Protective styling for the summer.

Braided ponytail. Protective styling for the summer.

New hair, who dis?!

It’s been 5 long years since I’ve gotten my hair braided. The last time I did, it was so painful, I vowed to never braid my hair again. Well, you know how the saying goes, never say never.

Back in May, I went to a Cinco de Mayo party and saw are girl with the prettiest lemonade braids I have ever seen. Hers were almost as nice as Beyonce’s. I stopped her and inquired about where she got her hair braided. She happily showed me her stylist’s Instagram page and I clicked follow right away. I followed along for a few weeks, trying to decide what style I wanted to get and ended up falling in love with the braided ponytail. It’s pretty long so at night, I wrap it into a bun and use my silk scarf to keep it neat.

I’m so thankful that it was not torture this time around to get my hair braided. It actually didn’t hurt much. There was a lot of tension to actually pull it up into the ponytail, and also tension to move my head and wash my face for a few days. Ha! But that’s expected. There wasn’t any pain though. I plan on keeping these bad boys in for 6 weeks (if I can keep it neat for that long). I am already plotting my next braided style! When you find someone that can braid and not rip your hair and edges out, you want to go back.!

Hair braided by Ta’Shara. If you’re in the Charlotte area, check her out! She’s amazing and was so gentle with my hair. Her name is JustGorgeousBraids on Instagram.

with love,

Nicky 💕

LIFE UPDATE: I got married!

LIFE UPDATE: I got married!

Hey ya’ll! Yep, its true. I tied the knot! I married bae, my boo, best friend, my honey, my babe. Last month, we said I DO!!

We wanted to get married near the water. A lake, the beach, something like that. We chose a hotel near our home because they have a beautiful lake and deck outside, perfect for wedding ceremonies. It was a very small and intimate wedding that included our families and very close friends. Since the wedding ceremony was an outside one, I prayed to the weather God’s to keep the rain away. Well, they heard me. There was no rain, but there was wind. Ha-ha! It wasn’t terrible, but it made it a little chilly. We all braved the wind and exchanged vows in what I felt was an absoutly perfect ceremony.

I wanted to find a special way to honor my mom, even though she is no longer here with me.  I framed my favorite picture of her, and it was placed on a chair in the front row, right next to my dad. During the reception, when they announced the parents of the bride, my dad walked in holding my mom’s picture as well. The officiant suggested the picture and it was the perfect way to honor her. I got to see her smiling face on my special day.

img_4415-e1524589885315.jpgI was uncertain how to wear my hair for a while. I thought about blow drying it, wearing a wig, or getting a really long ponytail. I decided not to do any of that, but instead to where my natural hair out, in all it’s glory. I did a braid out the night before and had voluminous waves. I added a sparkly hair clip to add shimmer to match my dress. I kept my makeup simple as well. I wanted to really look like myself in our pictures. You know that cake face and heavy contour to the point of looking unrecognizable? Yeah, that’s not my thing. 

img_4453We went on a really quick honeymoon to Mexico. It was perfect! We relaxed on the beach for several days, ate yummy food, listened to music and had the time of our lives.

I’m excited to walk through life with my hubby!

xoxo,

Nicky

 

My super glam bridal shower

My super glam bridal shower

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According to my wedding wire app, my wedding is in 23 days! Oh my goodness! Every bride-to-be deserves a friend that will pour love into them, be supportive, and offer to help in any way that they can. I’m grateful to have a friend like that!

My heart is so full. My friend Sharon threw me the most beautiful and glam bridal shower over the weekend. If it was not for her, I would not have had a bridal shower at all. For several months, she planned, organized and created the most beautiful day for me. She hosted the shower, and was also the photographer and videographer!! I think she should be awared the MVP friendship award for 2018, don’t you? Oh, I also need to mention that she did all of this while being in an out of a cast for several months because she had surgery on her foot! Talk about d-e-d-i-c-a-t-i-o-n.

She also surprised me and planned for my fiancé to attend the last hour of the shower, hence the ugly cry face. I almost messed up my makeup!

My friend Lisa made a wedding dress cupcake and adorned them in my mom’s favorite color, turquoise. You’ll see that my nails are also this color and I’m wearing my mom’s turquoise ring as well.

Enjoy the pics and my outfit details are listed below.

 

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Shop my outfit. Links below. 

Dress: My dress is from boohoo. It fits wonderfully, however, it has a really low slit in the front, so I wore a camisole underneath. Had this been a night affair, I would not have worn a shirt underneath!

Shoes: My shoes are INC. and were purchased from Macy’s.

Navy Faux Fur Coat. I purchased my coat from forever 21 about a year ago, however, it’s no longer on their site. I’ve listed a similar style below.

 

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With love,

Nicky